In particular the likelihood that children who are little arseholes both get shouted at more and are likely to grow up to be junkies etc
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/oct/02/shouting-at-children-ca…
In particular the likelihood that children who are little arseholes both get shouted at more and are likely to grow up to be junkies etc
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/oct/02/shouting-at-children-ca…
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Also firmly believe that untrammelled self esteem is the reason so many teens have meltdowns now when they start experiencing not being mummy's and teacher's special soldier any more and just being an unlikeable w**k.
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I can well believe this is correct. Even 'throwaway' comments can have a huge impact on children that lasts a lifetime.
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"abuse" though ffs. Correlation causation failure here
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Calling a kid a dumbo is not as damaging as sexual abuse wtaf.
And it is through pain that we grow. Children shouldn't have perfect self esteem because they are human and thus annoying.
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I suspect it doesn't really matter what triggers the emotional (ultimately chemical) response. It's the (physical, biochemical) impact that response has on the brain of the person who suffers it that matters.
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Dude
Sexual abuse is abuse
Calling a kid an idiot for doing something idiotic is training them how not to get glassed to death in a future bar fight
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And if you don't tell your kids when they're being idiots, what will happen to their brains the first time someone else points it out?
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Currently in a cafe with two teens ignoring their parents and playing separate loud music videos on their phones. Bet if I leaned over and called them a pair of ignorant wee khvnts they'd die of shock.
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Shouting at my kids is very often literally, and I do mean literally, the only way of getting them to do basic things like come for meals, brush their teeth, get their shoes on, etc. after asking nicely x a billion. Like fvck is that 'abuse'.
As 60s and 70s and 80s kids, do we all feel like 'abused' kids on the basis of being shouted at (much less being smacked around a bit) by parents?
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The article pretty obviously isn't talking about that though Threep. It is talking about being actively nasty to the kids. Telling them they are useless, lazy, a disappointment etc and really meaning it (or sounding like you do). That is very different to shouting at them to shift their lazy fvcking ar8es out of the house.
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for me it was when I'd done something wrong, I knew I was in trouble and the parents acted like it was nothing... that freaked me out.
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The problem arises when anyone under 40 is told they can’t have something. Cue lots of texting and online shit. No face to face. No Virginia.
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heh, as opposed to boomers being told they can't have something which has just literally never happened because after all it's only their kids paying the taxes to fund it all
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They’re paying for their kids’ houses. Or should be.
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The article says shouting or yelling are forns of abuse which are separate from name calling etc.
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