I just met a guy for a drink. It was going ok, he was nice enough but I didn't fancy him. He asked whether I fancied him and I said I was enjoying his company but didn't see him as more than a friend.
He then sat there and had a conversation with me for 10 minutes about how this always happens to him, whilst crying. Tears down face. It's you. No, it's not you, it's me. I never said you were to blame.... AAAGGHH
But apparently I am "mesmerising" and "stunning" so that's all ok. And I'm totally up for having one of these things around all the time.
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is the position different if you're looking for a hook-up rather than a LTR?
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You could consider executive dating, Stix. Expensive but at least the men you meet will have been vetted by the club and should be minimally solvent, sane and looking for an LTR.
TBF it seems to work a lot better for 40+ men than 40+ women, though.
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threads like this make dating sound pretty shit
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It is shit
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It is shit
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well, I will happily take you for a pint on a strictly not a date basis if you are ever in the toon
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So you have to wait for the decent guys to realise that they are married to snakes with tits and to get back on the market again hopefully with not too much damage?
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If I am ever in the toon I will take you up on that!
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I do think part of the problem is that *generalisation alert* men are often more willing to endure a sub-optimal LTR than women plus women may be more willing to put up with sub-optimal co-parents during the earliest and most hands on phase of child-rearing, thus early 40s = time most likely for hetero men to be stuck in relationships which they might otherwise have left but haven't due to kids/forbearance of partner/disinclination to look gift horse in mouth. Most divorces are, after all, instigated by women. I suspect by early 50s the reality that things aren't going to get better/kids have survived to maturity means there are more chaps on the market but regrettably for the single lady this seems a big age gap to countenance when in one's late 30s/ early 40s esp if said chap hasn't really been all that mindful about how he's perceived to the world outside his family for a good decade or two.
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Its also about how young you'd go Stix
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