Another J17 thread, but i was on the train last night and this guy gets on having a bit of a barney with his gf. He walked on with his hand around her arm, looked a bit tight grip, but not assault.....yet. Anyway, argument continues and he pokes her in the arm. not gently, but not too hard. then he pokes her in the face with his index finger. people are watching but not sure whether to say anything and a few people start to move away. then she looked away and he pulled her hair to force her to look in his direction
i didn't say anything, but got off the train to see him pulling her hair harder and almost shouting at the side of her face
i really think i should have said something. but he was a black guy and, conscious of my white pivilege, i'm really not sure if getting involved would have been appropriate
thoughts?
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Standard procedure is to text the transport police.
Lady Flash would not have thanked you for getting stabbed in the neck at this gestatitive juncture.
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why do you think he had a knife?
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my thoughts are that you should have contacted the police or a member of staff when you got off the train, or tried to find the OBS on the train before getting off, and that your last sentence about the bloke in question being black is either a tun-hunt or a feeble excuse for you doing nothing.
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Im not accusing you of incorrect viewpoints as it may be completely subconsious - I know my mind goes there - but would we have jumped to a knife if it had been a white guy??
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Sounds nasty although it can sometimes be hard to tell what is consensual and what is not do probably best not to intervene as her life was not in danger.
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You should have removed your '45 from the waistband of your Reebock popper-sided tracksuit bottoms and capped that woman-beating hayta's ass, obviously. What were you thinking?
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I think guys who are sufficiently disinhibited to assault their partners in public probably also assault guys who irritate them. Doesn't need to be a knife, could be a handy discarded bottle.
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Weirdly I was thinking the same, lyds. Tho it's not very cool to put the lieges in that situation even if it is part of their Deal.
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Or you could call the train manager or the BTP and let them sort it out.
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Isn't assault merely the use of words and behaviour that lead someone to reasonably believe that you are about to use unlawful force against them? On that basis he'd assaulted long before he grabbed her arm.
If was getting off the train I might have asked if she needed help on the way past hoping that he wouldn't decide to get off and follow me although more change of getting away on a platform that there is on a train.
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If he'd just got on the train and started shouting at and pulling the hair of a complete stranger, would you just leave them to it because he's not actually murdering her?
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I think I preferred it when you posted threads about fast cars, coffee shops and Captain Swing.
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Also I don’t think j17 thread means what you think it means
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but the fact that he was black and i'm white....makes things different, no?
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I actually mean that, I liked the previous incarnation.
Go on, tell us what you’re driving?
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M5, bro
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Nice, which model?
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or, technically, a rental mercedes A180....the M5s engine expired and i'm now in a fight with a warranty company to get the thing replaced
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F10
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Does the ethnicity of the victim make a difference in your universe too, or do you ignore them equally? Asking just in case I'm ever unlucky enough to get assaulted in a train carriage full of people who'll ignore it.
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i think you need to check your privilege pumpkin
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When I was but a young meh I was possibly assaulted, well I guess I probably was, when an ex angrily pushed me backwards onto the ground during an argument.
A cabbie who was close by asked loudly if I was alright which diffused the situation I think because the ex realised the dickishness of his actions.
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Ouch. Wouldn’t know offhand but bet an m5 engine is not cheap
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i was assaulted several times by a girlfriend. But due to my male privilege i dont think it can really be considered assault
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ZG - £21,600.....plus fitting
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Love the F10 M5 but its a travesty they don't offer Manual in Europe
assumng yours is not an import, even if it was it would then have to be a LHD manual
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Soz but heh
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yeah, sucks balls, but the loss adjuster lied on his report, so hopefully my complaint highlighting this should have grabbed their attention. Quite like the idea of a brand new engine
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It was certainly common assault, no doubt about it. But it is rarely worthwhile intervening in these kinds of situations. Too many variables including the risk that the victim doesn’t want your intervention. And I speak as someone who has actually intervened a couple of times in this kind of situation (and once got shoved onto the street and fell in the path of oncoming traffic who had to slam on the brakes). I certainly wouldn’t intervene for a common assault - only potential serious injury. and even then only if I didn’t have my kids with me.
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WOWSERS! for £21k you could make something epic of it
Could stick an LS9 in there ?
Or could very cheaply put a supercharged LS7 in?!
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Also even if it has no BMW warranty I may be tempted to get in touch with them from experiecne - did you buy it from a BMW dealer?
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m5 is still fairly epic....and an LS9 motor is the same price as an M5 engine....is there any benefit?
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its 3rd party warranty unfortunately. am still going to get in touch with BMW but only once i know the outcome of the warranty claim
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faod this didn't happen
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is it? oh fair enough, OK well LS7 supercharged would a lot cheaper and would make a great showpiece...750HP
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What Wellington said
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stay in your lane, Supes
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Christ, only on RoF can one contrive to turn a thread about domestic violence into a thread about penis-substitute cars...
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Yes indeed - I would substitute my penis for a car
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Yes indeed - I would substitute my penis for a car
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love that people who know nothing about cars can only conclude the only reason to buy a decent car is to make up for some sort of inadequacies
look, friend, if you cant run well, or catch balls, or know nothing about cars, dont hate on all the guys that can
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though that does describe quite a few people on rof
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Do put it away, there's a pair of lambs. And I've run a mountain marathon in under five hours, so be careful with the trash talking.
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