Valentines Day Plans

I am having a boy over to flat for a fourth date. I shall be making dinner (M&S dine in thing) then loads of snogging

Heh - the Punch Tavern at the far east end of Fleet Street (Blackfriars is the nearest station).  Quiz starts at 7.30, but most turn up at around 6.30-ish.  I'll be wearing a black pinstriped suit and a navy overcoat and generally looking like a silver fox.  Well - probably stood next to a silver fox, anyway. 

 

What do you need to revise?  Music intros, history, science and nature, current affairs, celebrity gossip That sort of thing.  It's general knowledge.  Plus most of us are distinctly average at quizzes!

Given where you're coming from dusty, that advice seems very hard to swallow.

FWIW, my plans will be pretty much the same as most years... send a bunch of roses "anonymously" to my mum and my 86 year old pseudogran and do the same sorts of things I did the day before and the day after. Except I have a date the day after so it wont' quite be the same.

I am going to a charity event for stressfully engaged young people but afterwards hope for at least one glass of fizz

Have bought a pun card which I will appreciate more than recipient

Gonna take Piper* on a date to a coastal cottage** I've built up as a secluded romantic getaway for us.

* FAOD yes I am aware that computer game generated characters don't really count but it's all I have to work with.

** Seriously I built that place up so nicely, had to use a shit-ton of concrete to head all the dead Mirelurk bodies that I killed to capture it.

I’ll pick up a stray tourist... ...start talking about how the local ski slopes are this year, mention that we could try one of the cross country courses together... ...go for a drink (s) and then ask her back to my place to see my ice collection.

Given where you're coming from dusty, that advice seems very hard to swallow.

I know, but hear me out. As women living today where we do, we are probably the most independent and free generation there has ever been. We have the most opportunities (Brexit notwithstanding!!!!). We aren't forced to marry or have children. We can have careers and travel and have hobbies and interests, all without answering to anyone. We can spend our money how we like. We don't need Dads or husbands to sign off on our mortgages or tax returns. I get that being in love is important but it is also not everything. I remember SO clearly  when I was serially dating and just gave up on the whole thing because it was just all so utterly w**ky. So I just enjoyed being utterly selfish and doing whatever I wanted. It was the best sort of self care. You might meet someone and you might not. But don't waste your time pining after the who knows what when there's other things to do and throw yourself into. And if you throw yourself into something and grab opportunities that come your way (like randomly buying a ticket to a music festival at short notice because why the hell not) you never know who you might meet. But don't hold out Valentines Day as anything other than a big marketing ploy.

xxxxx

I'm still on the Fyre Festival island waiting for you, dusters.

Please come soon - cannibalism and disease are rife here now.

(Good call generally at 10:27 btw).

On the day - work then tennis lesson and Not thinking about last year's lovedupness

The night before - date

The day after - buying all the lovely reduced heart shaped chocs and red flowers in M&S as per - this the best flower/chocs buying day of the year

The weekend after - enjoying said chocs then exercising them off

To be fair I could buy my meal for one before the day so it's less obvious but I kind of like the ritual of buying it on the day and basically giving a big middle finger to the whole ridiculous thing.

Ignoring it obviously!  Why would anyone buy into this consumerist nonsense?  If my romantic other complains, I will retort that we are not catholic and therefore do not need to celebrate all the saints' days.

Martian that is basically treating it like any other day as it's also pretty obvious from the ingredients you buy that you are also catering for one.  If I buy one of those small packets of mince, an onion and a small tin of tomatoes it's likely that I'm making spag bol for one or possibly two people with small appetites.

Walk past a supermarket on my way go home so prefer to just go fresh every day and get what I fancy at the time.  Actually won't get the pitying look on Thursday as I'm out tomorrow night and Thursday night so won't be shopping on the way home.

Why not buy loads of the ingredients and batch cook, saving you the trouble of needing to cook that again for a while as you just retrieve it from the freezer?

I batch cook spaghetti Bol, chilli, soup, loads of stuff.  I even bought those little aluminium trays with cardboard tops to put them in the freezer.  Can pretend it's a takeaway then!

Tec I've tried that but find I just end up staring into my freezer not fancying any of the things in it and wandering to the supermarket to buy something else.

There are also LOADS of fun new things on this year in London ie Galentine's events/ free pop ups with champers etc if you're looking for something anti_VD to do

Valentines is the one day of the year to be most happy about being single - means you don't have to worry about the toe curling awfulness of the valentines industry milking you so that you can show your "love" to somebody by taking them to a restaurant and eating worse food than usual at higher price or spending £s on tat or  trying to get flowers delivered on the one day of the year everyone is trying to do the same thing.  Fvcking awful.

Most couples don't do that though Maid M, if they did then clearly my issues would not apply.   I tend to agree though that well seasoned couples take a more sensible approach - it is the first year or two that tend to be the worst.

JC - yay

Guy C - I think it just depends on the couple and how nauseating/ oblivious to the rest of humanity there are. I know laods who've NEVER done the in your face we are so wuvved up thing on social media/ in person even wheny fully, Newy Sickeningly Loved Up. Others seem to ram it in your face constantly even after years together *rolls eyes*.

From the Glasgae / Edin thread but hope it helps some out tomorrow

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I was channelling Rabbie Burns, Clergs...

Go no Nor' ae tha' mound

Else ye'll hav' naer' a' scoobie

Tha's nay bonnie oop thaer

Than a wee bit o' boobie

Doon Sooth be tha best

An' stay on tha button

Strook an' betaste

O' tha lamb an' the mutton