The supposed necessity of living in the same house to be in a relationship or married
  • Outdated idea, surely.
  • Partners can live perfectly fulfilling lives in separate Covid-secure households, never physically interacting directly.
  • It's perfectly possible to interact with each other via video conferencing service
  • Children can be conceived by first delivering seminal fluid to be tested for Covid in a lab, and thereafter by artificial insemination
  • Children can also be cared for remotely. One day with one parent, then an approved Covid-secure courier delivers the child to the other parent, and so on.
  • This way the chances of Covid spreading within a household are reduced by 67%, future projections are expected to show. 
  • Eliminates lengthy commute from one household to another - you could be doing an exciting Zoom class instead. 
  • This is the future. 

"Children can also be cared for remotely."

Really? 

Send me the manual. 

Or we could all just live at work? As we have been doing for the last 12 months. Sleep in the office - which could help counterbalance the lack of demand for commercial real estate issue and solve the lack of housing supply at the same time. Employers can also deduct half your wages as rent payment. 

I have always fancied the idea of long term relationship or even a marriage where you live in your own homes but come together most weekends and maybe a couple of evenings a week.  Unfortunately none of my long term partners have agreed.

I have always fancied the idea of long term relationship or even a marriage where you live in your own homes

  • You are on the right path, Herr Guy.

but come together most weekends and maybe a couple of evenings a week. 

  • Nein, das ist verboten. Bitte, benutzen Sie Zoom. 

Heh I wouldn’t mind that either. I’d love a job with frequent business travel so I spend much of the week away from my family. 

I must confess we've all seen a little bloody too much of each other this past year.  If I were my wife, I'd be sick of the sight of me.

"I have always fancied the idea of long term relationship or even a marriage where you live in your own homes but come together most weekends and maybe a couple of evenings a week.  Unfortunately none of my long term partners have agreed."

We did this for nearly 4 years

i prefer living together and being married. Husband at least pretends to agree 

I know a couple that do this, have done for 10 years or so. both guys, seems to work

I had a girlfriend who said she had to do long distance 3 weeks after meeting me. I said no sorry. She said no, it’s fine, I think you’re amazing.

so 8 months of long distance. Then when she got back she wanted to catchup with all her friends and family every weekend dragging me along always promising we would spend time together soon.

3 months after returning she announced a further 4 months of long distance for work. But she would be in Amsterdam so just round the corner.

She didn’t come to visit me from Amsterdam as she wanted to make the most of it. I came out once a month but she cancelled two times as her mother was coming over.

Before she was due to come back she informed me she would only be back for 6 months before she went off to Asia for a long work trip for another 6 months 

I told her we were done and to go fvck herself 

She wasn’t. It was the worst relationship ever. She would text me 30 times a day, demand calls every night, send me photos of half her meals. If I had the slightest bit of evidence ever she was, I would have gone over the top paranoid.

she could of at least sent you a photo of the full plate - not on.

So why did you follow her around like a puppy for 8 months?

I didnt...she came back a couple of times and we went on holiday together, I semi engaged with the texts and calls and she was repeatedly furious with my alleged terrible communication skills

Anyway good to get confirmation she was mental

it’s always the woman who insinuates I am the mental one

i calmly lay out the facts, receive no disagreement but through conduct it is clear they hate my guts and think I am Hitler

"I have always fancied the idea of long term relationship or even a marriage where you live in your own homes but come together most weekends and maybe a couple of evenings a week.  Unfortunately none of my long term partners have agreed."

we quite often spend somewhere between 2 and 8 months a year based in different places; it works for us but I don’t imagine it would for everyone. and we don’t have kids - why would you do that if you had kids? 
 

 

I knew a married couplee who had adjoining houses with an internal connecting door so they could be together or apart as it suited them and they did bring up their son there. I think didnt Helena Bonham Carter and Tim Burton do the same thing?

yeah minkie Burton and Bonham Carter were known for this 

but if the houses are literally next door it’s just one massive house with two wings isn’t it?

"yeah minkie Burton and Bonham Carter were known for this "

They are divorced now tho so 

Well no it wasnt chill they each had kitchens, living rooms, studies, bedrooms. Obv they each preferred some of their own rooms for some things and some of their partners’ rooms for others. They could sleep together and soend time together during the day or not. They both worked form home.

sounds sensible enough tbh

clear split of housework would be the main benefit i would imagine 

it’s always the woman who insinuates I am the mental one
 

as opposed to who else? Is there a bloke in the relationship as well? 

Crypto and JB have it. 
 

Business travel is sheds with more comfortable seats and better catering

Have I missed something? Isn’t the whole reason why you want to be in a relationship with someone that you want actually to spend time and share your life with them? Otherwise it’s not really a relationship, it’s just two people who don’t have very much to do with each other. That basically describes me and pretty much everyone else in the world apart from my wife.

Space from each other is definitely a healthy thing for a lot of marriages I reckon. There is this Hollywood notion of marriage as a lifelong passionate love affair. I think a lot of people cause themselves a huge amount of hassle and misery chasing that pretty elusive dream and chucking relationships/marriages in the bin because they don't meet that dream.  A lot of other cultures start more from the assumption that unless the marriage is profoundly broken you assume it is staying and try to find ways to make it work. If that means being apart quite a lot then that is what you do.