Men desperate to have kids

This isn't talked about often enough. The biological clock isn't there, but for men approaching 40 and soon too old to be a cool dad in any meaningful sense can also be depressing.

Is there a male equivalent of a spermjacker?

There is no such thing as a cool dad anyway. Chill out and be glad you can sleep until midday (if this is you, I thought you had kids?)

Yes of course.  Lots of men deliberately damage condoms to try to get their partner pregnant, usually in order to stop them leaving them.

Also, pretending to have had a vasectomy when you haven’t.

It’s pretty sociopathic and narcissistic behaviour.  

For once last night I came across a profile on a dating app where a woman was quite open about not wanting children.  Made a refreshing change.

Until our recent little disagreement, my gf was talking about how she loves babies etc.  Was dropping hints I suspect.  I wouldn’t really be averse to it regardless of age, now that I know my problems aren’t genetic, although that issue is not on the cards anytime soon now!

 

I have a kid but would like more. At this r8 I'd look like their grandad if they ever materialise.

Sails I wouldn't hold her to that. Lots of people don't want kids until they suddenly do.

Getting someone pregnant to stop them leaving you - if you hate your partner you're certainly not going to want him as the father of your kids.

It definitely is. My brother got really grumpy when he turned 30 because he and his wife hadn’t had children yet. He was absolutely desperate for them.

Yes of course.  Lots of men deliberately damage condoms to try to get their partner pregnant, usually in order to stop them leaving them.

Also, pretending to have had a vasectomy when you haven’t.

It’s pretty sociopathic and narcissistic behaviour.  

This is about wanting to abuse and control your partner, not about wanting kids.

In most cases Anna, yes, but also men do it because they really do want children.  I went through a phase of wanting kids with my ex wife who said that if she got pregnant she’d poke them out with a coat hanger herself.

Well that would be a bit silly given that she could just take misoprostol.

wtf is whisper.sh? Link me to a decent article in a decent newspaper not some sh*t gossip rag and you might be on your way to making an argument.

Nothing wrong with having a child over the age of 40. 

It’s an app where people tell secrets anonymously.  The article just made a compilation of all those on a relevant topic, you just have to scroll down.

"Nothing wrong with having a child over the age of 40."

i don't understand how you aren't utterly exhausted.  There is absolutely no way I could bring myself to have a baby now. 

Exhausted and presumably more so when they're 10 and you're 50+

"Yes of course.  Lots of men deliberately damage condoms to try to get their partner pregnant, usually in order to stop them leaving them."

 

gg

Different for men and women Hools

Not sensible for working women over 40 to have children, even if it's possible 

It definitely is a thing.

The new Mr Meh mentioned kids very early in passing but at 6 weeks asked for my precise plans, declared he wanted them sooner rather than later, joked about not having to worry about birth control, has repeatedly said he can't wait for *when* we have kids, goes all gooey eyed whenever he sees a baby/toddler and said last week quite seriously that he would be entirely comfortable if I stopped taking the pill and we just saw what happened.

IT'S A THING!!

Of course men can get broody. Happens all the time 

I’d be checking he isn’t swapping your birth control for smarties or something.  Like srsly he gets madder the more I hear about him lol.

Oh I'll just drop the ones I've already got off at the nearest pound then tarquin 

Linda the reason you’re exhausted now is because you’ve already had kids. If you’re starting fresh at 40 you wouldn’t be so tired. 

Mr tc was well into his 40s when we had ours and he’s fine. It’s fine. Definitely know lots of broody men though, it’s a thing! 

Meh - your chap sounds a bit of a worry....

No that is probs true Toronto but clubbers already has them, hence my amazement he isn't too knackered 

On the subject of meh’s new chap.

It could be a bit of a worry but he seems to be making her happy.  Given what sailo said about how many women on online dating want to have kids, he could theoretically just be overdoing it in his demonstration that he is happy with the idea of kids.

Hes obviously keen either way and I would imagine that at some level it’s a nice problem to have.  Just try to ensure he isn’t putting you up on some impossible to achieve pedestal and won’t turn nasty when he discovers whatever flaws you may have.

 

Agreed! Although presumably the first (2?) batch(es) don’t live with him for most of the time?

Meh- dump this needy loser NOW - d'y'hear?

Insane to think a working woman should start having children over 40.without help. She'd never get through the day

I have "help". I have a partner who would be this hypothetical child's father 

we arent having one tho 

Nah. It's not that he wants me to know he's cool with it if it's something I want. It's that he wants them now. He's happy to go at whatever speed I want to though, so it's not too big of a problem right now. His sister is expecting in November so hopefully that will sufficiently distract him for a while!

I'm not going to dump him. He's hot and lovely and kind. And good at stuff.

i don't understand how you aren't utterly exhausted.  There is absolutely no way I could bring myself to have a baby now. 

 

Suspect the servants are helpful in this regard.