The context for this question is that I’ve recently met someone and their tastes in certain things i find a bit naff, but in most other respects think we’re quite compatible.
Obviously I have friends (of both sexes) who don’t share my tastes in music, books, films etc exactly, but i sort of feel like it’s different with someone you’d consider seriously spending a lot of time with.
In previous relationships there’s always been a lot of shared ground on these kinds of topics.
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I tell him what he likes and he likes it
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As long as the *sexy time* is good then no issue
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We've both decided that there would be no way on earth either of us would ever make the other this kidney on toast dish on MasterChef so it's working for us...
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it depends...
on random stuff our tastes are quite varied
on the fundamentals we are as one
btw, if you look down on them for their ‘naff’ taste it will never work; and are you sure that you aren’t a snobbish bore? it sounds like a possibility...
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What Hayley said
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But generally we agree on most things other than choices of films.
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Quite different !
values are shared tho which I think is the key thing
I like gardening and baking and knitting and yoga - he likes literally none of those things
we like the same tv , and then some stuff that we watch separately on the rare moments we get solo tv time
He’s a muso but tolerates my taste and I find his endearing (!)
I hate football, but am happy that he enjoys it
we both put family above all else
My work bores him, his interests me
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We are both very tidy. That helps a lot.
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We agree that she is very pretty and I am very handsome. Nothing else matters.
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We have shared interests and others that we don't which is a good thing, gets boring if you like all the same stuff, space is as important as company
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She follows fashion, I follow art
Actually we have totally different taste in cultural stuff and somewhat different, but compatible, tastes in food and drink. We have the same values and aspirations tho.
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Sleeper shout laz
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what's your most important value laz?
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We’re very similar in terms of tastes - books, films, music, filth. We agree on most things - I’m a bit more left of centre, he’s a bit more right on politics. We agree on decor - he’s a bit more trad and I’m a bit more funky and modern, but we’ve agreed on a style that suits our house (super modern just wouldn’t suit it, neither would very trad, old furniture and artwork, so we have found a style that works and suits us both and we take decorative decisions together). We don’t have all the same interests, but we complement each other very well. I can’t imagine being with someone as a partner if they weren’t my friend. That would feel weird to me, but whatever works is cool.
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I can confirm me and my right hand share all the same interests and values.
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when I first met him, Mr M cheerfully told me he didnt have any taste, and it is true.
but he has heaps of other qualities so that is fine
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Haha. I’m not a snobbish bore. Definitely not. I like lots of pretty low brow things and can easily bore on about them.
i just think some things she likes are laughably crap. Not everything though. She has good taste in sci fi films, at least.
Im putting it down to not being English. I am agreed on the ‘glad she’s not the type who insists on being involved in every hobby’. This causes problems on skiing holidays. I’ve seen it many times.
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I've no idea.
Can't imagine what it's like to be in a relationship where you haven't stopped listening to the other person after 6 months.
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We have similar tastes in decoration and furniture, which is very important to both of us. Very different tastes in films (not that important but it means we don't often watch films together) and books (I couldn't care less since reading is a solitary activity). He has very eclectic taste in music so I like some things he listens to but not other things.
Heh. I don't share my husband's interest in video games or Formula One but after nearly a decade together I now ski and he will happily go to a rugby match with me.
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Wot Emjay said (even down to the political- Mrs A is more tribally right of centre than little ol’ centrist me)
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Get used to her taste because that is what you will mostly be doing as a couple. In my experience and those of most of my friends, couples, at least those in happy relationships, tend to do what the woman wants: from decorating the house to going on holiday to watching films. Stereotype and not always true but mostly true. Relationships where the man dominates these decisions tend not to be so happy. Better for the man to do his own thing occasionally.
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Oh holidays is a fairly big one, I think. We definitely like the same kind of holidays.
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