Yeah but without 3 (and then the almost inevitable 4) you just spaffed some more cash on pointless sh1t. Which isn't going cut it in the 'feeling alive' stakes.

Build something

I recommend lego but game modding, or rp in civ or stellaris works too

Suspect mid life crisis is actually a worry that you won't make anything new so genetically your job is done so to speak

It is surprising enough that you convinced one woman to let you shuffle back and forth on top of her occasionally, do you really think you have a chance of another?

Heh - that is a very fair point wango tbf.

What age does the woman need to be to fall into the 10 years younger category?

Asking for a m3. 

under 30

Fux sake 

I mean, my m9 will be disappointed 

Phoebe! Thought you’d disappeared to the dark side!

This has happened to a lot of friends almost word for word!

Oh and FF, you're definitely young enough...

When you say an affair is your friend married?  I've been having flings with women rather more than ten years younger than me for years.  Never seen the appeal of a sports car and have had the person trainer for over a decade.  Have I had some kind of pre-mid-life crisis in my 30's?

Go sail across an ocean.  You will see and do things that render you so confident in your own awesomeness that you'll no longer care what anyone else thinks.

FF - I am sure your friend would be young enough ;) 

Jorrocks - I have a couple of mates on that trajectory at the moment. It all looks a bit knackering tbh. 

Think the best was a friend of mine who got divorced and within a year turned 40 and married a 25 year old he'd got pregnant in a private room at a karaoke bar during one of his post-divorce benders.

I would suggest going to a week-long meditation retreat first.

OMG. I'm too old to be someone's bit on the side. This is totes depressing.

I beg to differ

Awwww, Meh, I'm sure you're still worth a stand-up quickie in the back alley at RoF Christmas drinks, at least.

Which reminds me - never mind the Brexit bollocks - where are the survey results?

Meh no problem with a bit on the side my own age as they won't have a timetable for marriage and babies.  However, to have a bit on the side I need to have a bit on main carriageway so to speak (I was going to say front but that doesn't sound right either).

Not a bad idea.  All depends on how you go about it.  Did this myself more or less.  

I think the shagging brass while married bit makes it all a bit terminal and low rent. 

Other than that crack on. 

Apart from the divorce bit I've got this nailed. The only other thing is the nagging questions which haunt my waking dreams.... 

[i] is this it.. is this all there is... is this as good as it gets... what is the fvcking point[/i]

I'm definitely too young for a mid life crisis, doubt it would go too wrong though when it does happen

Bit on the side- didn't realise there was an age limit

Christ on a bike..  I've just realized that my internal narrator is Clergs

Affairs are usually a bad idea. If your relationship is already dead, be brave enough to end it without the catalyst of another person being involved. If you're just a bit bored and you meet someone who turns your head, there's probably a 1% chance that this new person is actually your soulmate and you have to be together no matter what the cost, and a 99% chance that you're just craving some excitement and you could throw away everything you already have for the sake of a relationship which will either crash and burn, or will become dull and pedestrian like the one you're in now.

heh@scylla

I hope the accent doesn't grate too much

Have you got a soft Edinburgh accent Clergs?

Right

Buy a nice sports car

1. You will get a buzz and feel like you have treated yourself

2. If you buy the right thing it will potentially cost you almost nothing other than running costs

*yes I know I bang this drum a lot but I like the sound of the beat 

MEDITATION RETREAT

I imagine clergs sounding like the witch in rentaghost. 

spot on

*sigh* at meditation fvcking retreat. I am thinking maybe 10 days on the lash with some mates at the Rugby world cup might be what is required. I wonder if I can present it to Mrs CC as a Welshman's version of meditation retreat. Rugby is practically a religion after all...

Scylla - since you have all of this nailed I am obliged by the rules of rof to say *describe affair with woman 10 years younger than you* &#128521

and how the bvggery fvck does one do emojis on this useless fvcking board.

if you are on a phone you can just do the emoji I think

re why people have affairs, for the hot sex obv. You can love your partner and still need hot sex. 

It is a bugbear of mine that older men tend to find it easier to obtain than older women (they DO, jayerz, I know you are lurking).

Sorry to disappoint.

He was 16 years younger than me. 

so about 43/4?

So is Donny Darko the rofer formerly known as Ceiling Cat? Why am I so slow at picking up on these name changes?  

Not sure how that will help.

If you can feel happy because of the way you saw the sunlight appearing on the Autumn leaves you are probably going to be mre satisfied than the silly car purchase and it's a lot cheaper. So look inside and find out why you aren't happy eg it is often very simple things such as not enough sleep, too much drink, eating bad foods.

CC should move back to Wales and buy some laaaand and fill it with sheep. Sheep won't tell him what to do or criticise his efforts. Replace sand with mud.

And he should read a good book. Works for me Clive.

In all seriousness I hope it gets better for you CC. It all sounds very soul destroying.

Fanks Gwen. It's fine though. Nothing bad has actually happened.  Just struggling with the feeling that this isn't actually all that much fun and there is another 15 years of it (at least) to go combined with the sense that the to do list is always too long to have any hope of getting to the end of it. In some ways you and cookie are right.  Managing to carve out the time to read a good book (in peace) would help a lot.