Falling in love with trainee

New trainee. South African rugby player type. Blond. Cutest accent. Can’t wait till he appears every morning. God help me and my marriage...

wind up, who the fvck goes to work every morning?

no-one thinks South African accents are cute.

Is the trainee gay? If not have a cold shower, because only misery lies ahead.

He says he has a gf. But there’s been a little flirting. Dangerous, I know. 

Whether you are male or female, it’s not love.  You fancy the pants off him, ok, but recognise it as that and focus on your partner.  

And he’s not necessarily flirting with you.  He’s a trainee ffs, he’s just being nice to the creepy solicitor who’s giving him all this work

We got drunk on sake and he told me had a few same sex encounters at school. 

See Spitting Image South Africans sketch.    

 

 

What Kimmy said - grow up.

Lots of attractive people in work places. It's fun to look and maybe flirt (if it's mutual) but any more than that it is not worth it.

Go home and fornicate with your partner.

Somebody make room on the news page. Got our next sex pest solicitor headline brewing...

Oh hell why not go for it. Go up to him now and whack your cock on his desk. He won't be able to resist.

Me and the partner have different bedrooms. More like mates these days. 

Sounds like time for a chat about open relationships.

If you want sex outside of your relationship, look outside of work and definitely leave trainees alone. 

But I’m beginning to suspect this might be a wind-up... 

No wind up here. I’m 29, been married for 2 yrs and with same guy for 8yrs. Met at uni. Guess I’m looking for love as my home life has gone stale.  

Didn’t realise gay marriage was legal in offshore places

Even if your relationship at home is not working, banging a trainee is not the answer.

Unless the question is 'do you want to end up in a sexual harassment claim'.

Seriously, the power balance is all off. Taking advantage of a good looking trainee as their senior is definitely not on.

We chatted about the open relationship concept but he’s not keen. Jealous type.

The trainee is eye candy, I know the line. But I’m the clingy type and can’t help gravitating to kitchen etc when he’s there. 

Fancying someone else can be a symptom all is not well with your partner (and you say things have gone stale).  That is where you need to focus your energy - try to sort things out with your P, one way or another.  Good luck.  

Well if it isn't a windup you've massively outed yourself to anyone in your office who reads rof. 

He asked me to start jogging with I’m at lunch. Probably should avoid that one I’m thinking. 

Don’t really care I guess. It’s not very popular over here anyhow and I work for a very local firm.

Why is everyone so negative about the potential trainee relationship?  Offshore just wants to spaff around his wild oats and he has every right to do so with another consenting adult, who by all accounts is gagging for it. 

What about his partner of 8 years? Pretty shitty thing to do to them. 

isn't behaving like it's still 1995 the whole point of going offshore? go for it imo

Heh. You definitely don’t work for (firm name redacted) They prefer their trainees blonde and female…

Embarrassing that’s it’s nearly 4 am in Cayman and I’m sitting here scrolling through recent team night out pics. Thinking it’s the whole turning 30 thing too 

Dimi - banging your trainee is a massive power imbalance. At least wait until they are in a different department or qualified.

u just suggested u were based in Jersey and Cayman is 5 hours behind UK not 6. Thread rating 2/10 would not recommend.

I'm waiting to read a news story about an offshore lawyer who's been arrested having been found at lunchtime in a bush with their running shorts rounds their ankles being blown by a young colleague.  The suspect tried to abscond but was hampered by his own shorts!

I didn’t  say I was based in Jersey 

I said gay marriage was legal there. 
 

I know because that’s where we lived and married before my transfer. 
 

Attention to detail folk 

"He asked me to start jogging with I’m at lunch. Probably should avoid that one I’m thinking"

As he is your trainee, if he is much younger than you (not necessarily i know but often the case) make sure you are in really really good shape fitness wise before you even consider "accepting" this offer...............................

And please check the current time in Cayman before spouting rubbish. 

Is being attracted to someone else a sign your relationship isn’t good? I’m not sure I agree. It’s perfectly natural to be attracted to people, regardless of your relationship status.

it’s whether you act on it or not that reflects on your relationship, and you as a person. 

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Dimi - banging your trainee is a massive power imbalance. At least wait until they are in a different department or qualified.

Does this still count when both trainee and supervisor are Alpha Males? 

Definitely issues with my partner. He won’t chat about the issues. Very closed and the atmosphere is very cool between us. I think he resents moving when I got my transfer. But I’m being honest when I say the bedroom element of our relationship wasn’t great. We’re both tops so it’s always been a little awkard. 

ofc talk to your partner and stop creepily following the trainee into the kitchen

”drunk on sake and told me he might be bi” was a nice touch though, as was “invited me to go running” - 8/10

Does he RoF? If he does he will know exactly where he stands by now, and he will also have all the blackmail material he will ever need.

Is being attracted to someone else a sign your relationship isn’t good? I’m not sure I agree. It’s perfectly natural to be attracted to people, regardless of your relationship status.

Ofc, highjinx.  But the OP is talking about love and looking for reasons why his feelings are reciprocated and it’s all meant to be with this guy.  

Pretty sure I had some degree of crush on most of my female trainees.  For some reason I always seemed to be allocated really hot ones.  Went further with one of them after she moved to a different seat, so it does happen. 

We don’t have seats per say as it’s a smallish firm. I could be reading the signals wrong of course but I’m sure he’s keen for something more. At the sake tasting he was following me around as I mingled. Kinda cute. 

I could be reading the signals wrong of course but I’m sure he’s keen for something more. 

heh

Are you hoping that he might read this thread?  Because given the descriptions of the trainee, your jurisdiction, your firm, and the specific events you mentioned its clear he will know who you are talking about if he does read this.

Not sure if that's cute or creepy.  Probably depends on how he feels about you I guess. 

as was “invited me to go running”

horizontal jogging? 😆

Not sure if that's cute or creepy.  Probably depends on how he feels about you I guess. 

i predict an HR intervention

You might as well specify the area of practice too.

As a bonus, if it matches mine I’ll happily take your £££ cushy offshore gig when you get fired for sexual harassment etc. 

tbf to OP i don’t think anything so far amounts to sexual harassment of our poor SA trainee

but maybe give it a few more posts - took a while for shooter to get from “concealed carry licence” to “secret ops agent” to “creator of insane kung fu”

We’re both tops so it’s always been a little awkard. 

and mr SA is a bottom?

Pretty sure I had some degree of crush on most of my female trainees.  For some reason I always seemed to be allocated really hot ones.  Went further with one of them after she moved to a different seat, so it does happen. 

warren you weren’t my former supervisor were you? o.O

As said above, it has to be a wind up as I have never, ever, heard a Saffer accent that could be remotely described as cute - male or female...🤔

Creepy gay guys. Strange how they get away with it now. 
 

Also see John Barrowman. 

Warren04 Jun 21 10:52

Pretty sure I had some degree of crush on most of my female trainees.  

why does this not come as a shock

warren m7 do you still think that poor people are poor because they are genetically inferior?

offshore10004 Jun 21 08:52

I ain’t female 

Bully for you.  Not remotely relevant to what anyone said though.

warren m7 do you still think that poor people are poor because they are genetically inferior?

I have never thought poor people are poor because they are 'genetically inferior'.  If what you mean is do I think intelligence is one factor which can and sometimes does affect people's wealth, then obviously, duh.

 

warren you weren’t my former supervisor were you? o.O

If your name is actually Jamie Stone then no.

I’m gonna for it this week. Been up all

night thinking about it. What’s to lose. 

You gave away the wind up too easily/early with the description of the SA accent as cute.