Is it unethical to keep souvenirs of your nicer dates (e.g. a coffee mug, beer glass, napkin, underwear)? Creepy? Or just a bit weird? It is probably all illegal, but who cares about the law... This is the worst 0 Vote up! Do you mean taking stuff from the bar or actually from the date's house? 0 Vote up! I dated a guy who chose to steal my credit card from my room at uni. 0 Vote up! so it depends on the level of intimacy relating to the item? Credit card theft should be punishable by death! 0 Vote up! What Tuesday said 0 Vote up! It was all fine up until underwear. 1 Vote up! They always end up stealing my heart ... 0 Vote up! I always used to offer them my underwear (sometimes at the beginning of the date if I liked the girl) but no-one wanted them 2 Vote up! Anybody who has been in a relationship that there are always multiple transgressions and disappointments on both sides. @Tuesday, the women which I date have underwear from H&M and Zara :-) 0 Vote up! When I first knew Mr M, after I had stayed over for a night and discarded an empty face cream jar in the bin, I found on a later visit he had fished it out and buried it in a sock drawer. I found this very cute. 0 Vote up! Sounds like Bebchuk is a couple of dates short of wearing their skin as a dress. Whatever floats your boat, I suppose. 6 Vote up! Anything with consent is fine Underwear without consent is just Tory A beer mat or something from a good date is cute 1 Vote up! Would you steal a car? 2 Vote up! Great username. The underwear thing is a terrible terrible idea. 1 Vote up! I found the lady shrine, made up of pilfered dildos, panties, and lipstick, was seriously damaging my bedroom game. It's a bad habit m7. Wood not recommend. 0 Vote up! minkie28 Sep 22 17:02 Reply| Report When I first knew Mr M, after I had stayed over for a night and discarded an empty face cream jar in the bin, I found on a later visit he had fished it out and buried it in a sock drawer. I found this very cute. mmm. I am a bit mixed on this. On the one hand fetish weirdness. On the other, i remember smell or the face cream of one person way back in a way that transcends all time. And it has been some time. 2 Vote up! Of 1 Vote up! I don't get this, but I see sentiment in memory not objects tbh 0 Vote up! Re the credit card it was just so stupid because there was no one else it could be and when quizzed admitted it and I was like wtf were you going to do with it and how did you think you’d get away with it. He didn’t really have any answers and funnily enough I ended it there and then. See you later burglar boy 0 Vote up! Not sure about the ethics.. but from a psychological point of view it’s certainly ‘interesting’. https://www.psypost.org/2021/04/narcissistic-individuals-perceive-keepsakes-from-past-relationships-as-trophies-60596?amp=1 1 Vote up! What Scylla/the link says; it's like you are keeping trophies, demonstrative of you viewing people as conquests. Odd in my view. Less odd if the person gives you something as a gift, and you treasure that. 0 Vote up! Retaining something from a date could be a memento or a trophy. I guess it depends whether the object was procured surreptitiously or not. 0 Vote up! Lady Pot just abandons her underwear at my place and shockingly seems to expect me to launder it. After a quick audit it seems I am holding about $400 worth of her collection which only represents about 25% of her entire stash. An audit of my underwear results in a maximum value of $30!! I am worried that she may have a lingerie problem. 1 Vote up! does it make a difference if you are a girl, you give a 20 mins BJ to the guy and he just falls asleep - but you still like him a lot and you just want a small memento? 0 Vote up! Small memento is probably going to be down the front of your top or in hair. 0 Vote up! Christ Bebchuk, just do what normal people do and cut a lock of their hair while they are asleep. 2 Vote up! What about naked photos and videos from spy cams? 0 Vote up! haaa! One of my friends has loads of taped video calls (18+ content) with an ex. I always said that this should be deleted - mainly for mental health reasons. 0 Vote up! I think it’s creepy. What’s the house view on retaining nudes? 0 Vote up! Live ones are, on the whole, rather frowned upon 0 Vote up! Rofgold 1 Vote up! @Coronovax - how can it damage your bedroom game? Thinking of your ex's dildo hidden in the basement had a negative effect on your libido during s.x? 0 Vote up! ‘does it make a difference if you are a girl, you give a 20 mins BJ to the guy and he just falls asleep - but you still like him a lot and you just want a small memento? ‘ *chokes on the stench of desperation* 1 Vote up! I do this with memorable autopsies. Keep a gallstone or something. 1 Vote up! At least that’s how Crypto will explain his collection to the police once day.. 0 Vote up! I suspect that would the least of Crypto’s concerns if the police raided his bedsit 0 Vote up! The Tory memorabilia may be harder to explain? 0 Vote up! Is that what you call it? Makes sense, in a way, I suppose. 0 Vote up! There’s a piece of Tory inside all of us. 0 Vote up! Didn't no u went to boarding school m433 0 Vote up! Heh. 0 Vote up! I do this with memorable autopsies. Keep a gallstone or something. hehe - what's the lawyer equivalent of this - keeping memorable first drafts? 0 Vote up! Seems a bit artificial and pessimistic, as if you think that memento may be all you'll ever have. Old hand-written letters are the best mementos. And concert / plane tickets etc. Put some boundaries on this, otherwise you'll have to hire a lock-up just to store old biscuit packets on the basis that you both dunked a McVities (that last is not slang, but sounds as if it should be). 0 Vote up! I once did have a shoebox of things that girls had left had my flat but never came back for. Eventually I decided it was a bit Ted Bundyish and threw it all out one day. 0 Vote up! We have a sock fairy/thief in this house - I think she is present in many a UK home - I often wonder where all those smelly socks are of the family. On the thread question - it is wrong to steal so most of the things to be taken are illegal and the solicitor could be struck off (yes even over a pair of knickers). However if you took something that does not belong to someone else you might be okay. 0 Vote up! The most memorable aspect of one of my most recent dates involved the back seat of a car, but I really don’t think it would have been practical for either of us to have considered stealing that….. 0 Vote up! m7 orhan pamuk already constructed a massive best-selling novel and a v weird real-life but made-up tribute house out of this v deb7 0 Vote up! actually not sure that 1 of his was truly a bestseller 0 Vote up! Refresh Back to board Join the discussion Login Register 0 Vote up!