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B'A'M
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:06
please circulate his number to ROF

let hilarity ensue
.....Meh
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:08
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That's pretty tame tbf.
Judy_Carter
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:10
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but I don't even know him, Meh. This is a person I had a 30 minute drunken chat with in a wine bar.
Loopy-Lou
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:13
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he's looking for you to stroke his ego and tell him you are, in fact, interested. Basic stuff.
Saillaw
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:13
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Why did you keep responding to his texts? If I got a text from someone I'd drunkenly given my number to and couldn't really remember them or didn't remember being something special I'd just delete it.
Osama
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:13
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reply "Shouldn't be difficult"
B'A'M
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:18
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I would have sex with him and cry during orgasm.
Keef_
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:20
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Reply requesting a cock shot and less small talk.
B'A'M
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:22
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I used to have a girlfriend that cried during orgasm.
Consigliere
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:22
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Sounds like he's got you bang to rights, love. Stop wasting his time.
I am Cyprian
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:23
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you gave him your number (obvious game on signal)
you played a very subtle (sorry, yeh, but no) - he didn't pick up on it.
You played a less subtle (sorry, but no, but yeh, but no), he started to pick up on it.

Then he thought you messed him around a bit, and he wished you well in a passive/aggressive way. In short, you hurt his feelings. Try being less mean.

.....Meh
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:25
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I had one guy a little while ago from Tinder who sent me a barrage of passive aggressive messages wanting to know why I wasn't jumping at the chance to meet him. He'd told me he wasn't sure if I was worth taking for a drink and unsurprisingly I didn't respond. And then he wouldn't let it go. More passive aggressive put downs. All very weird.
Consigliere
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:26
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Sounds like a charming fellow.
3-ducks
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:29
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Wtf? Wot CYP said.
Osama
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:29
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seriously, what has happened to the world?
I am Cyprian
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:30
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holy moly. Ducks. I need a shower. #EndOfDays
The Donald
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:35
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Judo - what happened to the army person?
Parabens
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:39
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Italians are a bit funny like that
Tom Linorder
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:40
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'you gave him your number (obvious game on signal)'

Yeah, cos a woman can't exchange numbers without being, like, totally up for it.
.....Meh
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:42
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I went through a phase of giving my number out a lot whilst drunk, mainly as a way to extricate myself from their company...
Tom Linorder
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:44
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nah. It was an obvious 'game on' signal, meh.
Keef_
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:46
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Isn't standard procedure to give them Hyoo's number if it's just for extrication purposes?
.....Meh
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:48
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Because I'm usually too wasted to think of that.
I am Cyprian
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:48
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I'm a bit guarded about my number. Because the night is dark and full of terrors. If someone gives it me their number on a chance encounter in a bar, I don't think it's unreasonable to join the dots and assume it's because they'd like to see me again.

If I text them and they reply "sorry, actually I'd actually prefer not to meet you" that's fair enough. if they reply "sorry, really busy, can't meet on Friday", if I'm a forrin, I might assume that means maybe Saturday. If I offer Saturday, and get a "sorry, actually busy then too", I might guess that means the person is perpetually busy, but maybe not, if I'm from a country where people actually aren't so afraid of causing offence by being honest, they communicate between the lines.

If you need to "give a number" to escape a conversation, make one up
Judy_Carter
Posted - 14 March 2017 15:58
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Donald - I really really fancied the army chap, especially after a snog - he is so manly, but it appears to have fizzled out, unforts / \
Abbeywell/NSA
Posted - 14 March 2017 16:27
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Italian men are hard work
Abbeywell/NSA
Posted - 14 March 2017 16:27
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I blame thier mothers and grandmothers
Judy_Carter
Posted - 14 March 2017 16:28
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It is not a nationality which has ever appealed, tbh.
Consigliere
Posted - 14 March 2017 18:19
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"Yeah, cos a woman can't exchange numbers without being, like, totally up for it. "

Congratulations, have today's virtue signaling award m5.
Chambers
Posted - 14 March 2017 19:05
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Why give him your number in the first place? And the 'hope you find someone better than me' is a bit understandable as you go on to say that you have had subsequent texts with each other since the first meeting.

The Darce
Posted - 14 March 2017 20:06
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Judy maybe when you were tipsy you were a bit of a prick-tease and now you're stringing him along and he's upset .. thats all .. don't give your number out to anyone unless you think they are hot ..
Want a balloon?
Posted - 14 March 2017 20:11
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Speaking as someone who has decades of experience of being absolutely awful with women, there is no way in hell 99.9% of women would ever respond to that text ever.

So it's unlikely you're going to either.
Consigliere
Posted - 14 March 2017 20:17
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M5, if you give out information like your phone number "just to be polite" then you can't be surprised if you end up in the odd awkward situation.
Want a balloon?
Posted - 14 March 2017 20:18
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Can you stop abusing that username with your terrible posts, jamplagariser?
Incakenito
Posted - 14 March 2017 22:04
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What a wassock
snowglobe
Posted - 14 March 2017 23:56
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Never give out your number to someone you've just met in a bar: there's a lot of nutters out there.

If they ask for your number, say you'll take theirs and pretend to put it in your phone and tell them you'll call them. Complete avoidance of problems and awks moments.
Dogwarden 2016
Posted - 15 March 2017 04:35
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Right Darce..... you have GOT to stop commenting about wimmins stuff. You are universally wrong on what we are like and what we should do.... always. every time. consistently. 100%. Just stop it.

Here's it from the horses mouth. We want to know about steam mops, writing software (I bought it) and, of course, cooking from you.....

Just to help the guys out more, I am well old and live in the country where people still shake hands with their gloves on.... even I know that, chatting to someone in a bar for half an hour and giving your number is NOT BEING A PRICK TEASE.

FFS, she chatted to someone for half an hour! Poor Judy. She responded to a blokes texts but didn't agree to meet someone she didn't want to. FFS, you all act as though she is under some fvcking obligation to go around with an OPEN/CLOSED sign on her so that the I-talian knows whether he is going to get him some or is wasting his time.

Well, SHE DOESN'T BECAUSE SHE ISN'T A WALKING VAGINA! Poor chap investing sh1t all of nothing in Judy and not getting his rightful reward!

Judy chatted and was polite and she owes him jack sh1t of nothing beyond common courtesy.

I'd burn my bra but I need the inadequate cantilever support it offers. ggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Bright Carver
Posted - 15 March 2017 08:07
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^^^ Well in there, Darce my sun, well in - Doggerz clearly gagging for it from you ^^^
Gannicus
Posted - 15 March 2017 08:18
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She's prolly at that time of the month. Ignore her.
Jethro won it for Labour
Posted - 15 March 2017 08:43
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I'm not surprised she's angry, what with her being up at 4.35am and all that.
Incakenito
Posted - 15 March 2017 08:47
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I agree with doggers.
Saillaw
Posted - 15 March 2017 09:19
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I would much prefer a lady politely declined to give me her number so I don't waste time and hope on sending her messages.

Gay bars play by a whole different set of rules given that men will lift you off the floor by your crotch without even saying hello.
Judy_Carter
Posted - 15 March 2017 09:22
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I was too tipsy to give a false number and when I am tipsy, I am extremely high spirited and friendly.

The implication that I shan't find anyone better than him was a bit arrogant, I thought.

Anyway, whoever said supra that 99.999999 per cent of women would not reply to that text is correct and I have not, and shall not.
Judy_Carter
Posted - 15 March 2017 09:24
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I also got a random text from my erstwhile Eaton Square lover last night, a month after I said that we should not speak again. Was it a full moon.
Bright Carver
Posted - 15 March 2017 09:24
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You had me at hello without even saying it, Sails.
Bright Carver
Posted - 15 March 2017 09:25
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Heh - will you be replying to the Eaton Square's text, Judy?
Judy_Carter
Posted - 15 March 2017 09:27
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I am considering it, Bright Carver. On balance, though, I think not.
Saillaw
Posted - 15 March 2017 09:28
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Call me old fashioned Bright but I do prefer to at least know someone's name before groping or being groped by them.

Judy it takes a few months for men to finally accept that you'll never speak again and they hope that after a month or two you might have calmed down so send a message to test the water. I was the one who told my ex we shouldn't speak again but still fell for sending a couple of drunken messages before deleting all of her details from my phone.
Bright Carver
Posted - 15 March 2017 09:30
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Yes, I was joking.

Wot Sails said in second para though.
Bright Carver
Posted - 15 March 2017 09:32
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Judy - joking comment was to Sails, obv.

Even if you don't reply you can probably take it as read that he's available whenever on dial-up...
Judy_Carter
Posted - 15 March 2017 09:38
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This chapter in the autobiog: Tinker, Banker, Soldier, I-talian (I-tie rhymes better but would be horrendously racist and I would disapprove)
Obadiah Hakeswill
Posted - 15 March 2017 09:45
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I haven't read the thread, but if you haven't replied already reply with:

"You're not the problem. It's your nonna. I heard her pasta is cr@p."
Hal Incandenza
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:06
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1. Man chats to woman in bar
2. Man texts woman, they chat further
3. Man asks woman on date, woman declines
4. Man expresses mild disappointment
5. Woman castigates man on internet

Feels like you, not he, are the aggro one.
Judy_Carter
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:07
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we did not chat on text, he asked me for coffee or wine a few times, and I said that I am v busy at work for the month or so.
Judy_Carter
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:08
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plus he has never heard of Rof and is not identifiable
Saracens1876
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:17
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seems Judy was very polite and he must be a mong not to take that hint. I mean if you want it you make the time unless you are deployed overseas.

I think the 'I hope you find someone better than me' routine a little tiresome unless you are 17.
Consigliere
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:28
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Judy - was that the truth, or a brush off? Presumably the latter?
Judy_Carter
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:30
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a brush off. I have had had a busy period, nothing compared to private practice, but nothing that would prevent me from meeting up with someone I fancied for a drink.
Saracens1876
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:36
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exactly Judy. You would be buffed and ready given proper notice if the mood took you.
Bright Carver
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:38
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Heh @ OH - would only add:

"You're not the problem. It's your nonna. I heard her pasta is cr@p. It's 'cos she doesn't put any fvcking salt in the water. *belm face*"
Judy_Carter
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:38
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hahahahah!
Bright Carver
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:39
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An Italian guy who's never heard of ROF?

I think you're being played, JC.
Saillaw
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:39
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So why not just simply say at the start "soz was a bit tipsy and don't fancy it after all" rather than just saying you're busy?
Loopy-Lou
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:51
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next time just tell him you're not interested or don't reply.

anyway - re your ex-lover getting in touch, it's Venus Retrograde at the moment, which, if you believe in that kinda stuff (have a feeling you will), makes it more likely that exes will get back in touch or chance their luck.
Bright Carver
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:52
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*wafts burning sage around thread to cleanse all*



*awaits Uranus gag*
sad banta
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:53
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Men are also male at the moment, which makes it more likely that exes will get back in touch or chance their luck.
Saracens1876
Posted - 15 March 2017 10:56
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true sb - he was looking at that pic and the horn struck